Gary's Guidance: Deciding on What to Do

June 2011

Gary’s Guidance

Deciding On What to Do

Last month I wrote about positive self-talk and its importance to being mentally or emotionally healthy.  I try to make a purposeful choice each day to focus on being positive.  I hope that some of you have begun to apply some of the suggestions offered on being positive. Sometimes being positive is hard to do because life events are sometimes not so positive… things can be difficult, and people depart, and at times problems may take time to solve.  If I am fortunate to wake up and be still alive the next day, I tell myself that I have another chance to make things right for myself, and try to contribute for the goodness of others.

This brings me to the point of how relationships play an important role in our lives.  I like that I see residents at Arbor Terrace socializing and connecting in some meaningful way.  There is often a buzz of positive energy at Arbor Terrace. I see people doing something meaningful in occupying their time. There is also time for being alone which can be comforting.

We have all experienced that people come and go. So what do we decide to do after learning that someone has moved into Arbor Terrace or that staff has departed?  From a resident’s perspective, here are some tips:

  1. Be a good neighbor – extend a warm welcome to someone new and ask them to spend time with you.  If they are not willing, follow up later and connect once again!
  2. Show someone where things are in the building.  Help them where to go or show them how to get around.
  3. Invite a new person to participate in any of the activities/groups that you already attend.
  4. Introduce the new resident to one of your friends.
  5. Tell all new staff who you are and what is important for them to know about you.
  6. Give positive feedback to staff when they do a good job.

In closing, decide to extend yourself to others and invest in making new relationships. Be positive, take care, and make a new friend.

Gary Kozick, LCSW

Originally appeared in the Arbor Terrace: A Senior Living Residence monthly newsletter, June 2011)