Gary's Guidance: New Year’s Resolutions

January 2011

If you are like most people, you made one or more New Year’s resolutions.  Perhaps some of your resolutions this year are the same ones you made last year.  We know about the common resolutions: exercising, losing weight, quitting smoking, paying down debt, etc.  Most likely, the resolutions made last year were either forgotten over time or abandoned before they could become beneficial to you.  There are many reasons why this happens, but I am not going to delve into that right now.  Instead, I want to offer a few ideas for your consideration regarding self-improvement and for you to try in 2011.

Make use of positive self-talk.  Begin talking to yourself with positive, encouraging, and approving messages.

Ask directly for what you want and need.  Do not be afraid to speak up.

Practice paying attention to your emotions and feelings and be accepting of them.  Feelings are neither right nor wrong; they simply cue us in as to where we are at in the moment.

Turn anger into positive energy by using it as personal motivation.

Write a journal of positive memories to comfort you later.

Give up worrying over conditions you cannot control.

Quit the habit of frowning and replace it with smiles and cheerfulness.  Recall delightful memories of the past.

Make regular daily contact with people who will support, comfort, and accept you with unconditional love.

Take 15 minutes each day to practice relaxation and engage in positive visualizations.

Gary Kozick, LCSW

Originally appeared in the Arbor Terrace: A Senior Living Residence monthly newsletter, January 2011)